The core of your unworthiness feeling comes from the flawed premise that it’s your responsibility to make someone else happy.

I used to think it was my responsibility to make my partner happy. Leading me on a path of twisting and tweaking MY own behaviour so that HE could be HAPPY.

Taking me further and further away from living life the way that made ME happy.

Result: WE both ended up UNHAPPY.

We get it all wrong.

We worry more about how OTHER people feel than about how WE feel. If you could just care about feeling good, and trust me you would not feel good if it was at the expense of anyone else's happiness. If you just focus on doing what feels good to YOU and let everyone else take care of themselves.

Then your life would be easier and happier.

So many people are trying to guilt trip YOU because THEY think that YOU could do something that would make THEM feel better. And they want to feel better.

So the heart of the unworthiness that so many are feeling is that you have been unsuccessful in helping someone else to feel better.

But it’s never been YOUR job to fix anything in anyone else’s experience.

It’s never been your job.

But many of the people around you want to feel better and hold YOU responsible for how THEY feel. When THEY don’t feel better YOU feel like a failure and it’s this is what’s causing your unworthiness feeling.

It’s not YOUR job to make anyone else happy. It’s also not anyone else’s job to make you happy. That’s your job you see.

Practise the mantra: MY happiness is MY job and YOUR happiness is YOUR job.

Then work to maintain your own happiness and see how your life changes.

#happiness #takecareofyourself #selfcare #personalgrowth #lifecoaching

Nathalie Rill

Certified Life Coach helping you to build up your self-trust and self-confidence to go after what you want.

https://lifebydesign.ch
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