ARE YOU GIVING YOURSELF YOUR OWN MEDICINE?
When you know what you don’t want, you also more clearly know what you do want. This is the value of a contrasting experience.
It helps you identify your personal preferences.
The way that I see life is:
Data collection
Data analysation
Implementing learnings
Meaning, experiences are just data collection that helps you get more clear on what you want and don’t want.
When you have figured this out a good way to implement the learnings is to get curious as to where you go against your own preferences.
I.e. I learned from the experience that I had last Friday that I have a strong preference for connection over correction. I want to be connected with first before being corrected.
If someone just tells me what I did wrong and skip the connection step, I get defensive.
I also reflected on where in my own life I engage in the same behaviour.
Where I’m quick to judge someone as wrong or bad.
Where I have very black and white thinking.
Where I correct instead of connect.
It turned out that it is not so easy to live up to the standards that I put on others…
And if I can’t do it, how can I demand it from someone else?
Are you giving yourself your own medicine?
Next time you ask someone to behave in a different way, first check in with yourself - are you living up to your own standards?
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